Sunday, February 24, 2013

Austria Again


So there are some days in life where I think " I don't deserve any of this.  I did not actively do anything in my life to have the opportunities that I have right now."  And today is one of those days. 

I spent three short days in Bad Gastein,  Austria, but the things I did while there are things that some people can only dream of.  My hosts were incredibly busy because January is high tourist season in the Gasteinertal valley, and they have their own practice which cares for sick and injured tourists. And believe you me, when you have drunk Brits skiing in the Alps, there is no shortage of sick and injured human beings.  So because my hosts were at work all day long, I mostly took things easy, but had the opportunity to do some cool thangs. 

DAY 1:  I went to  the Felsentherme, a natural thermal spa.  Aside from being an incredibly relaxing afternoon filled with several different saunas, steam rooms and thermal pools, being in this environment got me a-thinkin'.  This is something I experienced and I believe wrote about several years ago, but the phenomenon never ceases to amaze me.  That is, I live in a country where women must cover as much of their bare skin, and sometimes even their hair, to avoid verbal harassment and an unending stare from men on the street.  Even in "high class" places like the gym that I pay $80/month to go to, men absolutely cannot help but staring at women working out in the mixed gender area.  Even in the womens-only locker room of the gym, it is clearly posted that nudity is not allowed. This is something that I have come to accept, and therefore, am sure to wear the "appropriate" wear for wherever I go.

  But at the Felsentherme, things are quite different.  It is of course a place where people swim, so swimming suits are worn. No problem.  But the locker room there is mixed gender.  They do have changing rooms, but its not uncommon to see a boob or ball here or there.  But then, when you enter the sauna area, there is a sign with a picture of a swimming suit... with a big X through it. So being of the mindset "When in Rome..." I shed my swimming suit so that I could enjoy the varied saunas.  And sure, some eyes wander, and once when I was in a sauna relaxing with my eyes closed, I opened them to catch a man across from me quick avert his glance (which, by the way, makes it even more obvious that you were looking).  But on the whole, most people mind their own business and after catching a glance at someone's privates, move on their merry way to the next sauna without batting an eye.   

  How can two societies be so incredibly different? In Jordan I wear pants and a long sleeve shirt and men at worst pull their cars over thinking I'm a prostitute or at best hoop and holler out of their car windows. (Good one guys...women are really attracted to those who express themselves best in grunts and shouts)   But in Austria, I walk around naked amongst dozens of other people and no one manages to even to raise an eyebrow.   Women in Jordan aren't even comfortable dealing with nudity in a women's only locker room.  It's human body for heaven's sake! If "God" created a human body a certain way, why would "he" also mandate that people cover the whole dang thing from head to toe.  While I not an avid nudist nor pious nun, I just can't understand the mindset that just one patch of showing skin can be sexually suggestive.  If you get so aroused by a low cut shirt or a lower-leg baring skirt that you can’t handle yourself, then sorry, that’s your problem. Let me just end this internal dialogue by saying that I would love to bring a Jordanian to the  Felsentherm simply to see them keel over because of either a heart attack or spontaneous orgasm.  


DAY 2:  I went cross country skiing.  No insightful thoughts bubbling up because of this one.  It simply felt great and the scenery was beautiful.  I had not been cross-country skiing for 6 years, but I picked up where I left off and did two loops at the base of mountain for about 1.5 hours.  

DAY 3:  I went downhill skiing in Sportgastein, another area of the Gasteinertal valley.  And with the help and training of my hosts, I skied down an Alp. Twice. I will spare you an overly detailed description of the landscape, but let's just say that there were several times that I stop and wipe the tears from my cheeks before they froze on my face.  These were not tears of happiness or sadness, but rather the kind of tears that fall when you look at something, and have a hard time imagining anything more glorious than what you're looking at, and then because of this mental frustration, your brain is not sure what emotion to feel, so instead just produces tears.  You kna whadday mean?

So in the last month of my life, I have been so fortunate to see the world in so many ways.   After feeling like there was no good in the world when I was stuck in a classroom experiencing more failure than success for 2 years, this was both figuratively and literally a breath of fresh air.

While I understand that this could be considered bragging, you, the reader, have the choice to read this or not.  Make that choice now.  And in the meantime, if I may...

In the last month, I have:
-seen the Pyramids
-walked into a Pyramid tomb
-sat on the shores of the Mediterranean Sea 
-explored Petra
-bobbed  in the Dead Sea
-ridden a camel
-driven the entire length of Jordan
-snorkeled in the Red Sea 
-seen the Sea of Galilee and the Golan Heights standing in one spot  in Jordan
-drank Spanish wine
-eaten Spanish tapas
-seen the Roman Aqueducts 
-drank Belgian beer
-eaten Belgian chocolates 
-drank Glüwein in Germany
-drank beer and ate a pretzel in a park in Munich
-skiied in the Alps

And this is not to mention the fact that I have done the majority of these things with incredible people who are all in some way a huge part of who I am.  Thus, the phrase, " I don't deserve any of this."  BUT, at the same time, I am incredibly thankful for it all. 

Deutschland for a Day


Disclaimer: This post was written in a train somewhere between Germany and Austria in mid January.

In an interesting turn of events, I spent just under 24 hours in the Bavarian city of Munich.  In Brussels, I purchased a DeutscheBahn train ticket for 100 Euro which would take me from Brussels to Frankfurt, where I would switch trains and carry on directly to Bad Gastein.  But a problem arose when there were unexplained "technical difficulties" on the first train and my arrival in Frankfurt was delayed by just over 2 hours.  The DeutscheBahn info people told me to hop a train to Munich where I could catch a connecting train to Bad Gastein.  But when I got to Munich, it turns out that the earliest direct train to Bad Gastein would be the next day.  I chose the latest train, leaving at 6:30 PM from Munich and arriving in Bad Gastein at 9:41 PM, as I was supposed to on my original trip the day before.  This would be good for my host, as she was busy with work and as it would give me the entire day to sightsee.  

After getting my ticket adjusted, I tried to find wi-fi so that I could sign online and find cheap hostel somewhere in town.  Seeing as how there was no free wi-fi anywhere at the Munich main train station, I went to the DeutscheBahn "servicepoint" and asked if they had any recommendations for hotels, as my delayed train caused me to be stranded in Munich overnight.  Hearing that the delayed train caused my problem, they hooked me up with a free hotel voucher for a hotel across the street from the train station!  I lugged my things across the street and checked in so I could leave my luggage and head to find a place to eat. 

I took the S-Bahn downtown to Mariensplatz and found the least touristy, most crowded eating and drinking establishment I could find.  By this time it was 10:00 PM so I was both starving and parched from my day of travels. I promptly ordered 2 Paar Weissewurst over a bed of sauerkraut, which was both the cheapest thing on the menu and really the only thing that I could figure out what it might be.  Even so, I was still slightly off. 

When I finished eating, was on my second 1/2 liter of beer ( I would have asked for something smaller, it's just they didn't have it. And I surely could not have ordered a water or diet coke and come off as the prudish tourist) and when I had completely exhausted the entire USA Today which I snatched from the front desk at the hotel, I spotted (and overheard) an English speaker across the way from me. Seeing that both he and I were alone, trying to make it look like we were busy on our (dumb, as in opposite of smart) phones, I invited him to join me.  "Sure, no problem, then" was his answer. 

 He turned out to be a nice, slightly balding Irish lad (named Patrick) who just arrived in town to interview for a job.  He's spent the last few years teaching English around the world before he met his Kiwi fiancee in South Korea and moved to New Zealand with her where she then became his ex-fiance. 

Sucks.  

So enough  putting nice ol' Patrick on blast.  He and I had a nice chat about everything from vestiges of colonialism in Ireland (which I brought up) to the dangers of living in Jordan as a Westerner (which he brought up, and to which I was sure to deny that there was any at all).  Afterwards I headed back to the hotel to get in a few hours of rest before hitting the cobblestone the next morning.  

The next day I basically spent walking, drinking, eating and photographing.  I took no public transportation and spent 9 AM-5 PM traversing the city.  I consumed one glass of gluwein at a cute cafe in the middle of a market , one white beer and a pretzel with mustard in the middle of the English Gardens (a park in the north of the city), and  one bowl of spatezel and one dark Haufbrau beer at the Hofbrau Haus in the city center.  I think I have finally reached the point where I am satisfied with the amount of beer I have getranken before returning to Jordan.  

Then at 6:27, I got on a train to Austria. 

Monday, February 4, 2013

Dubai


So I’m quite a bit behind on updating about my travels, but here’s a post about my trip to Dubai in mid-November.


In November, I went to Dubai.  My friend Anna who I met on my program in Egypt in 2006, was working there as a consultant.  For a 24 year old, she had a pretty sweet deal going on.  Hired by the DC office of her company, she was on loan to the Dubai office, but worked on a project in the neighboring country of Bahrain.  This meant that during the week she lived Bahrain and stayed in her own apartment that she rented there. But because of "security issues," her company paid for her to fly back to Dubai each weekend and to stay at the Park Hayatt whilst there.  Oh, and did I mention that they paid for all meals and transportation as well?  Though of course I was happy for my friend to have such a lucrative job, I was also happy for myself to be able to live in the lap of luxury for one weekend.  

Arriving in Dubai late on a Wednesday night (Thursday was the Islamic New Year, and therefore, a holiday in most Muslim countries), my two friends and I hopped in a shiny white airport taxi which was parked quietly in the taxi queue.  When our South Asian driver turned the key and started the digitized meter, I knew I wasn't in Kansas anymore. I had come from a country where order means organized chaos and landed in a place that would turn out to be a Disneyland without walls.  

On the way to the Hayatt, my friends and I marveled at the perfectly groomed everything- highways, shrubs, turn off signs, traffic lights, grass, the list goes on. This was just a introduction of what was to come in this strange land called Dubai.  

The taxi dropped me at the hotel and my friends continued on to where they were to stay for the weekend. My friend Anna had added my name to her room so I checked in as if I were a paying guest.  Sometimes it's difficult for Americans to allow others to serve them, but at this point I had gotten over that feeling and was very happy having handsome young men open doors for me and take my luggage off my hands.  It was even one guy's job to brush the carpet tassels straight after guests walked over them.   Hey... someone's gotta do it. 

Anna had to work the next day, so I took my time getting up, making myself an espresso with the in-room espresso maker and checking out the grassy patio which opens out to some body of water. As I saw a group dressed in pastels pass in a golf cart, I thought for a moment that  I was in my grandparent's gated community in Florida.   

After showering in the honeymoon style shower (read: great for couples, not-so-great for friends spending the weekend together), I headed to the most luxuriously delicious breakfast buffet I have ever seen, complete with fresh baked bread, exotic fruits, gourmet yogurt in tiny glass containers and the like.  Heading into town to meet my friends, I simply hailed a hotel taxi and billed it to Anna's room (with her permission, of course, and at this point only because I had no local money to pay a regular taxi).  

Though my South Asian taxi driver said that he knew where my destination was, we spend about 1.5 hours finding it.  In Dubai, most "low class" labor is hired from other countries, meaning that it's likely that who ever is serving you has just arrived to the country.  This not only means that his language skills will be lacking, but also that he could be directionally challenged.  This is coupled with the fact that Dubai is expanding rapidly, which means that new places are popping up all the time.  This is what happened with the location that I was looking for, as it was apparently a new area and an even newer apartment building where my friends were staying.  My taxi driver stopped several times to ask other South Asian workers if they knew where my destination might be located, though unfortunately none did. I finally called the woman who was renting the apartment to my friends for the weekend (though aerbnb.com) and she was able to give me directions which I was then able to relate to the taxi driver (since she could not understand the taxi driver's thick English accent).

That's something else about Dubai.  The only time I spoke Arabic was in the airport at customs. The guy at customs was dressed in the traditional Gulfi garb and asked me several questions in Arabic, most of which I answered incorrectly simply because I misunderstood what he was saying.  After that, English was everywhere. It was such an international city that with English as today's  lingua franca, that was the only way everyone could communicate.  Though I felt guilty because I had to make no effort whatsoever, I definitely enjoyed this aspect of Dubai.

So when I finally met with my friends, we headed to Dubai Mall, one of Dubai's several incredibly large and over-the-top shopping centers.  In addition to every single store and restaurant you could ever imagine (H&M, Zara, Bershka, Promod, The Cheesecake Factory, Potbellys, TGI Fridays, and Red Mango to name ONLY a few), there was a aquarium, skating rink and Arab style "souq" dedicated only to displaying high end and high fashion shoes. Outdoors there was a huge pool not for swimming, but instead for decoration and for a water and music and light show which took place ever 30 minutes.  (This place is not to be confused with the Mall of the Emirates, the mall with the indoor ski hill)  My friends and I spent several hours both shopping and sight-seeing in the mall before I met up with an "old friend."  



 It turns out that Karim, my high school boy obsession, was living and working right outside of Dubai, and came to the city every weekend because the city where he lived was so boring.  The last time I saw him was 6 years ago when I visited him in Germany (and when he ditched me at a 5 story club in downtown Frankfurt on New Years Eve).  It was strange and nice to see him again, and though he was an important part of my life for about 6-8 months, I was reminded why we broke up and why that was a good decision all around.  

Later on in the evening we went to a dinner with my friend Anna, her coworkers, my friends from Fulbright/ Jordan and Karim.  This was also a strange moment, as it was an intersection between so many periods in my life. Anna knew about Karim because I was dating him when I spend 6 weeks with her in Egypt in 2006, and though I had more contact with Anna over the years (meeting her in DC and NYC several times with other students from our program), I knew Karim better and for longer, as I spent most days of the last semester of my senior year driving 30 minutes from Waukesha West High School to Kettle Moraine High School to pick him up after school and spend the evening with him.  Then add in the two girlfriends who I met through Fulbright in Jordan. Somehow, the last 6 years of my life blended together in a Middle Eastern city that I was visiting for the first time. 

To add to the peculiarity of the evening,  we met at a lavish Argentinean grill where there was really nothing on the menu for under $20.  I ordered a meatless pasta dish and nervously refused most side dishes and refills of champagne that Anna's coworkers were generously pushing my way.  By the end of the evening, and after being unable to refuse the champagne, sides and subsequent three rounds of shots, I was prepared to shell out something like $200 as my share of the bill.  But when the actual bill arrived at the table, Anna and her coworkers immediately grabbed it and discussed what part of the $1000 tab each one would " expense" to their work accounts.  Oh, to be young and a consultant. 

Karim had called this one, as he said that living in Dubai is all a show of who has money and power.  He even told me a story of being at a club and lamenting to his friend that he wasn't getting any attention from the ladies.  His fabulous friend responded to him "Honey, you're not rich enough to be cute in this city."  I've heard before that life isn't a beauty pageant, but in Dubai this phrase takes on a little bit of a different meaning.  

Speaking of the money and power show, we left dinner and headed to a club where I was quite certain my friends' and my presence added to this show.  We were invited to a private table with bottle service by Anna's friend and when we arrived, we were the only girls amongst the group.  We were immediately offered drinks by "the help," or in other words, a short and undoubtedly Brown man standing there like a fly on the wall until he saw someone's drink was empty or someone empty handed.  I graciously accepted this offer, as I knew I wasn't paying.  We partied and danced on into the wee hours of the morning before we hailed a cab back to our exorbitant hotel.   For me, this was an exciting break from the monotonous and quiet Jordanian nightlife.  But to think, this is every weekend for some people. 

The next day we rose early (read: 10 AM) to visit the tallest building in the world- the Burg Khalifa.  At somewhere between $20-25, the entrance fee was a little steep to cover a 3 minute elevator ride and a walk around a glass room, but worth the experience I suppose.  It's only an incredible experience because of the incredible circumstances surrounding you in that moment.  First: you are in fairy tale city which was built up from nothing in a matter of years. Second: you are on the 125th floor of a building. Third: you look down and wonder how they keep this place going, seeing the tops of other skyscrapers below you surrounded by perfectly groomed parks, gardens, parking lots, pools and ponds, and knowing that is sprang up out of a desert. 



More than anything, the Burg Khalifa is a symbol of Dubai's wealth, real or feigned.  I believe it was Karim who told me the story that it was supposed to be called "Burg Dubai" until Dubai had to borrow money from Sheikh Khalifa of Abu Dhabi to complete its building.  And I can't remember where I read it, but Dubai's sheik or prince said something to the effect of " We can't wait for the future to build the future," which I guess means "We shall win in this international, architectural dick-measuring contest even if it means we have to borrow money."  But don't quote me on any of the last 3-4 sentences, as I have zero sources to cite, though Wikipedia does agree with me on the first part. 


For the rest of the weekend, my friends and I relaxed at the Park Hayatt's pool and went out for a low-key dinner in the Marina area. Overall it was fun to get away from the garbage-littered streets of Amman and into this fantasy land for a few days. Whether Dubai's wealth is real or fake, its a fun getaway for a weekend.  If you ever wanted to know what it feels like to be rich and famous, Dubai is the place for you. ( Just bring either a large stash of money or several well-connected friends.)


And an after thought: 
When it comes to places like this, and many places in the Middle East in general, I question myself how I ever came to be in place where I can do the things I do.  It makes me question what I have in the past purported as my beliefs and values.  For example, I am undoubtedly and completely against slavery and the subjugation of Brown and once-colonized peoples.  This is an idea which is very easy to write and talk about in classes and to argue about with friends and family at holiday gatherings. But when it comes to putting it in practice, it's a little more difficult to hold true to.  Because in today's world, things like slavery and colonialism is not as flagrant as it maybe once was.  Nobody is physically forcing the Pakistani man to drive the taxi, but how much is he getting paid for his work?  Does he have time off?  How often does he see his family?  What are his living conditions?   I think it is fair to say that Dubai was built on the backs of underpaid and overworked South Asians who continue to be integral to the success of Dubai's tourism sector and economy in general.  I don't know the exact statistics on their living conditions or their contributions to the economy but I think it is also fair to say that that there is not a positive correlation between the two. So when I am riding in these taxis, buying from the companies who legally hire these workers, I am supporting these institutions which perpetuate a system of indentured servitude and perhaps cultural and economic imperialism.  It's too easy to forget because it's fun to be served. And it's even more fun to be served for cheap. But I suppose the true value of things cannot always be determined by their price tag.  It's cheap to me, but what has it cost someone else?

Saturday, December 15, 2012

Haifa and Back


I haven’t written in almost two months so there are several experiences that have built up that I need to write about. The first is my trip to Haifa, Israel to visit my parents who were on a Mediterranean cruise which happened to stop there. 


When I found out that my mom and dad would be stopping in Haifa, a mere 78 miles from Amman (comparable to the distance between Madison and Milwaukee, Wisconsin,) I couldn’t pass up the opportunity to see them.  But in this area of the world, a 78 mile jaunt is not really a jaunt. As I discovered, it’s more of a expedition.
Since I learned of the existence of Israel and its strict “security measures” against its perceived “security threats,” I have always been nervous about going to Israel. I have heard horror stories from friends who were detained at the border for hours or one who was even deported. A friend who wears hijab (the Muslim “headscarf” as we call it in the US) was attempting to enter the West Bank one summer where she would teach English at a social services center.  She was born in Syria, but her parents moved to the United States when she was one year old. The border guards at the Israel-Jordan border looked at her (American) passport, looked at her, and asked her to step into a corridor without explanation.  She sat on a bench in an empty corridor for three hours until they took her into a room for questioning. The border guards emptied all of her suitcases and took her phone and computer from her. They asked her to give them the name of all the “terrorists” that she knows.  She couldn’t help but chuckling and assuring them that she knows none.  Not being satisfied with that answer, they forced her to give them the name and phone number of all of her aunts and uncles, and opened her picture album on her computer, and meticulously went through all the pictures. At one point, they stopped on a picture of her older brother (who has dark skin and a beard) and asked “Who is this terrorist?”  She assured them that it wasn’t a terrorist, but instead her brother who lives in Buffalo, New York and is married with two little kids.  She’s not sure what convinced them that she didn’t have ties with terrorist organizations, but after 12 hours of detainment in corridors and locked rooms, she was let free to continue to her journey to the social service agency where she would teach classes to Palestinian kids for the summer.
Another Fulbrighter who was at the time living in Egypt, booked a trip to Israel to visit friends.  Upon arrival at Ben Gurion airport, airport security whisked her aside and locked her in a room.  She waited there for a few hours until she was questioned about the purpose of her trip.  She was then informed that she would be deported to the United States. What was this 23 year old American’s crime?  Cultural exchange.
After graduating college, this young woman wanted to learn more about the Middle East, and researched study abroad opportunity in the area. In the end she found a program where she would spend the summer with a family in the West Bank and did exactly this.  Beginning her experience unaware as to what all the chaos was about in this part of the world, she quickly learned that life in the West Bank was less than perfect and understood why people here are fighting tooth and nail to gain basic freedoms and rights.  Somehow the Israeli security forces learned this about this young woman, and considered her a security threat to the country.  She was forced to buy a ticket back to the states and was banned from ever entering Israel again.  After arriving in the US, she had to buy another plane ticket back to Egypt to collect her belongings from the apartment where she was living and return back to the US.  Read this Fulbrighter’s account here:  http://alajnabiya.wordpress.com/2012/09/26/you-cant-get-there-from-here/
After being involved in events and groups in college which questioned the Israeli government’s policies towards (or against) Palestinians, I was nervous that my name would for some reason be on some security list.  And after hearing these stories from my Fulbright peers, I was nervous of crossing the border myself.
Many people ask why I care about a foreign government’s policies and why I even chose to involve myself in this conflict at all. Some claim that Israel is its own country and should be able to do what it likes at and within its borders. If this were completely true, I would care to a lesser extent than I do now.  But the truth is that Israel receives about three billion American tax dollars each year in the form of military and (some) economic assistance. This is according to a report by the Congressional Research Service titled “U.S Foreign Aid to Israel”, published March 12, 2012.  My greatest gripe with the situation at hand is that I am (and many of you who are reading this are) subsidizing the mistreatment of Americans at the borders and Palestinians within the borders.  THREE BILLION of our American dollars are going to this country in which the people, according to a poll by The Telegraph, “favour discrimination against Arabs.”    
I believe people from across the American political spectrum could agree that three billion dollars could be put to better use helping or supporting American programs or if you don’t believe in your tax dollars supporting social welfare programs, perhaps then you would agree that these three billion dollars would be better off never leaving your pocket.  While I won’t go into great detail on this political conundrum, I urge you to educate yourself using the resources above or whatever other resources you can access. In the mean time, back to my experience crossing the border.
In preparation for traveling to Israel, I went to the American Embassy in Jordan to gain a second passport. In special cases, the American government allows its citizens a second passport.  One of these special cases, though not explicitly stated, is travel to Israel.  However, the American Embassy website states that you may apply for a second passport may be issued “due to restrictive policies.”  In this case, if you have an Israeli stamp on your passport, you may not enter any other Arab country except for Egypt and Jordan (because of a peace treaty signed between these nations).  In hopes that Lebanon will be safely accessible by next June, that security in Syria will, insha’allah, improve by the time by passport expires in a few years and that my good friend will invite me to Sudan, I decided to shell out the $110 for a second passport.   This was the first step of my journey to Haifa, and the stars seemed to aligned in my favor, as if it had taken the two weeks I was told it would take to process, I would not have been able to get it in time to visit my parents when then passed through Haifa. Thankfully, I only took 8 days and I was one step closer to making it to Haifa.
The next step was to secure some sort of transportation from Amman to Haifa.  I asked my colleagues as to how they had previously traveled to Israel and I was given a variety of answers. Taxi to the border, bus to destination inside Israel. Bus to border, taxi to bus station, sheirut (microbus/ shared taxi) to destination inside Israel.  Other people gave me a response which included several other combinations of busses, taxis, friend’s cars, vans, microbuses, etc. I concluded that this was not helpful.
I searched high and low, but did not find any direct transportation from Amman to Nazareth. However on an internet forum, there was a bus service mentioned between Amman and Nazareth.  I found the phone number for the office in Amman, and gave the guy a call. Though he claimed to speak English, his answer to every question I asked was “Okay, no problem.”  The Lonely Planet forum also recommended to buy your ticket a day early, so I showed up Thursday evening and purchased my “bus ticket” for 40 JD ($56) to be sure I would get a seat.
In the meantime, I booked a hostel in Haifa. I also called that hostel and found a bus that would take me to Haifa after the first bus dropped me off in Nazareth.  In this part of the world, there are no such things as exact addresses for bus stations or any location for that matter, so I just had to rely on my navigation skills to find the bus station to Haifa once I arrived in Nazareth.
On Friday morning, I arrived to the bus company, called Trust International located in 7th circle, at 7:30 AM to be completely sure I wouldn’t miss the bus at 8:30.  I brought a book so I didn’t mind waiting. (Also if you know me, you know that I am an over-the-top organizer and I will arrive incredibly early to any type of transportation.)  I assumed that we would begin loading at 8, but at 8 AM, there was still no bus, and I was left to sit next to an old man who decided that the best way to spend his Friday morning (the Middle East’s equivalent of Sunday morning) was chain smoking in a bus office on the outskirts of town. 
Finally at 8:30 on the dot, a clean cut middle aged man pulled up in a yellow taxi.  The guy working at the front desk motioned for me to get into the cab, and I asked “I’m the only person?” They told me yes, and though I was rather confused at this whole situation, I threw my backpack in the backseat of the cab and started to get in. The driver motioned to me and said in English “You can go ahead and sit in the front.”  I looked at him with disbelief and asked “Really?”  (In Jordan, it is customary for women to sit in the back.  If there is a man in the group, he will sit in the front. Or, if there is a group of 4 women, then it is okay for a woman to sit in the front. But if it is just one woman, the woman sits in the back) I was a little weirded out by this request, but I figured this company wouldn’t hire this driver if he creeped out customers on the regular. I was still confused, because I thought I bought a bus ticket and now I was being personally driven to the border by a man named Ayman. Either way I decided I would sort everything out on the way, hopped in the front and we got going on our journey. 
It was about a two hour drive from Amman to the Sheikh Hussein Border crossing in the north of Jordan. I had never been that far north and to be honest the drive was quite beautiful.  Once we got out of Amman and started to weave through the mountains, the scenery went from gray to green. My ears wouldn’t stop popping as we traversed up and down mountain switchbacks.  And of course we’d stop occasionally to pick up a few men hailing a taxi on the side of the road. They’d get in the back, we’d ride for 10 or 15 minutes and they would get out, but not before handing the driver a few coins, as the meter was not running.
I had a nice chat with Mr. Ayman Al-Zain before he dropped me off at an indiscriminate road on the side of the “highway” (more of a two lane country road.)  He handed another waiting taxi driver a few JDs to take me through the upcoming checkpoints to the actual Jordanian border and then handed me 1.5 JD and told me to use it for the bus that would take me from inside the Jordanian border to the Israeli border.  Then he gave me the phone number for the elusive Abu Hatim, the man who was supposed to be picking me up on the other side. I asked specifically what he would look like or what car he had, but Ayman told me, as if we were starring in the latest installment of Dune, “ I don’t know.  This is as far as I come. I’ve never been to the other side.” So without a full understanding of where exactly I was supposed to go from there, I took the 1.5 JDs in hand and Abu Hatim’s Israeli number in my cell, and hopped in the cab with the next driver who was telling me to get in.
I handed this new cab driver my passport after he requested it, and we wove through the concrete barriers in front of us. Once we reached the first checkpoint, he instructed me to pull up my sunglasses and he handed the soldier outside the car my passport. The soldier asked me a few questions, which I am convinced were not actually necessary and instead were a few failed attempts at flirtation.  Either way we passed though this checkpoint and another one with no problem. 
Then this taxi left me at another checkpoint where I was instructed to put all of my luggage ( a backpack and a purse) on the conveyer belt to be checked by security.   I showed my passport and passed with no problem.  Upon exiting this small building, I found myself in a small compound of several more official-ish looking buildings.  I found my way to the customs desk where I was asked another series of questions, all in Arabic.  Here I presented them with my original passport (since it contained my visa), paid my 8 JD exit tax and asked them to stamp a separate piece of paper (not my passport) so that there would be no evidence of leaving Jordan though this border crossing. (Even though I wouldn’t technically have an Israeli stamp in my original passport, it would be quite suspicious if I were to leave and come back through one of the three border crossings with Israel.) I found the bus office where I was to spend my 1.5 JD on the bus that would take me to the Israeli side. I had no idea if this ride was to be 10 seconds or 10 minutes, but I bought my ticket and waited patiently until the bus filled up with enough people for us to get going. 
The bus was filled with me and about 10 other people, all Arabs, some with Jordanian passports and some with Israeli passports. The ride was maybe ½ a mile from the Jordanian customs booth, over the Jordan river, to the Israeli customs building. Though the distance was short, it took about 20 minutes for us to complete it, as we sat in one place for some time while Israeli security checked around and under the bus with mirrors attached to poles.
When we were finally let out, I headed to yet another building where I pulled out my brand spankin’ new second passport. The woman flipped through it, called over a colleague and the colleague asked “Do you have another passport?” I answered honestly and they asked to see it. I handed over my original passport and they asked why I had two. Again I answered honestly that “ I want to travel to Lebanon” and the allowed me to pass through to another luggage x-ray check and then to the final passport check.
  I was advised by fellow travelers to choose the youngest male available in the case that flirtation would or could help my chances of passing through.  Luckily there was a very cute young man with curly black hair and a keepah clipped to it behind one of the desks. (To be honest, I would step in this guy’s line any day, if you know what I mean.)

I handed him my second passport and he proceeded to ask me a series of questions.
“What is the purpose of your visit to Israel?”
“I’m meeting my parents. They’re stopping in Haifa on their Mediterranean cruise.”
“Are you traveling alone?
“Yes.”
“What is your mother’s name?”
“Renee Ramirez”
“What is your father’s name?”
“Ralph Ramirez”
“What is your paternal grandfather’s name?
“Arcadio Ramirez,” I told him in a proper Spanish accent, as I don’t feel right saying those two words like a gringa. 
He finally looked up from his computer, and asked “What?”
“Art, Art Ramirez” I responded to him in pure Anglo. “And my grandma is Margarita. Sounds like the drink, but it’s not.”
Finally! He cracked a smile.  He let out a faint chuckle before he continued his questioning.
“Where will you be staying?” I took out the print out of the confirmation from the hostel where I’d be staying and handed it to him. He took it, along with my second passport to somewhere out of sight while I waited for a few minutes at the window. When he came back, he sat down again and asked “I stamp your passport?”  I told him to go ahead, gathered my documents and exited the building.
I weaved through some fenced in areas like I was heading to the front of Splash Mountain, and ended up exiting onto a dead end street surrounded my lush green trees and vegetation. There were perhaps three cars lined up, so I went to them hoping to find Abu Hatim.  Not sure if I should speak English or Arabic or if the guys in these cars spoke either of those, I made awkward eye contact with each of the men, hoping that one of them would signal in some way that they were waiting for a person to take to Nazareth.  When none of them gave me any type of signal, I tried to call Abu Hatem from my phone.  Of course, there was a long message in Arabic telling me something, but my slow self could not understand a word. 
I resorted to plan B, which I created then in that moment, which was to ask the old men smoking hookah and sitting at the roadside café for help.  Again, unsure if I should speak English or Arabic, I chose Arabic on the basis that they were old men sitting around smoking hookah in the middle of the day.
“Excuse me, do you know is Abu Hatim is here? He’s my taxi driver and he’s not here,” I said in my basic Arabic.
“Abu Hatim’s not here.” One of the men took a break from flavored tobacco to answer me.
“I’m sorry, but could you call this number?” I handed them my phone with Abu Hatim’s number on it. One of the men gladly obliged but after trying the number told me, “He’s not answering.”
I resorted to plan C, which was to call the “bus” company back in Amman and yell at them in English.  Luckily my call went through for enough time for me to scream at them that Abu Hatim is not at the border even when I called him and told him the time that I would be there before I reached Israel.  (This was true. I called him when I still had perfect reception a mile ago on the Jordan side) Then my credit ran out because it was an international call and I resorted to Plan D, which was to sit and pout next to the old man smoking argileh.   There was no public transportation option and even if I wanted to try to hire one of the cars that was sitting at the border, I didn’t know if they were for hire nor did I have any local money.
After about 10 minutes of sitting there and unsuccessfully thinking of a Plan E , one of the man yelled to me “That’s Abu Hatim!” I looked up as a unmarked white vehicle pulled up on the side of the road. I didn’t get out of my seat until a few other men yelled at me to go towards the car.  I was still skeptical that this in fact was the legitimate next leg of my transportation to Haifa.  I approached this so-called Abu Hatim and started grilling him with several questions of my own.  Turns out he didn’t speak a lick of English so in Arabic, I asked him “ Who are you? Are you Abu Hatim? What company are you from? Did I speak with you earlier? Is this your phone number?” Finally he mentioned the name of the company from which I bought this SO CALLED “bus ticket” and I figured that was good enough for me. I hopped in the back of this unmarked white vehicle and we were on our way to Nazareth, or so I hoped.
The entire way, I took in the new sites as I desperately searched for signs that we were successfully approaching Nazareth.  As the road signs indicated the number of kilometers to Nazareth decreasing as we went along, I felt better and better about this Abu Hatim character.  It was about another 45 minutes in the car until we reached the outskirts of the city. I told him I needed to get on a bus to Haifa and I also needed to go to a bank where I could take out money.  Of course, I’m convinced just to make my journey a little more difficult, it started pouring rain right before Abu Hatim stopped at a corner and said, ”There’s a bank, and the bus stop is 50 meters on the right.” The honking cars behind me pressured me to grab my backpack and purse as soon as I could and jump out of the car before I could ask any clarifying questions.
I found myself at an entirely Arabic ATM with no knowledge of Arabic financial vocabulary. I can surely introduce myself, ask directions or yell at children in Arabic, but put me in front of an Arabic ATM and I’m useless. I turned to the young man next to me and asked in Arabic while pointing at the machine “Is there English here?”  He answered me in English, pointing to the card slot “You card here.”  For a moment, I thought he might be preparing to rob me of all of my savings stored away at Waukesha State Bank, but realizing that I needed Israeli shekels for the bus to Haifa and that I was clueless of any other option at the moment, I put my card in where he told me to, and then an “English” option appeared.   Alhamdulillah, Anne Frank was right. People ARE really good at heart!
After taking out an arbitrary amount of shekels (the conversion rate was something I checked before leaving, but did not write down,) I headed right to the bus station.   But after walking something more like 200 meters, I realized I was not finding what I was looking for. I heard that Nazareth was the largest Arab center in Israel, so I was happy to find myself amongst people with whom I could communicate. I found the nearest woman and asked if she knew where I could pick up the bus to Haifa.  She pointed me in the direction opposite that I had been going, so I turned around and walked for a few blocks.
I finally found the bus stop with the number of the bus I was looking for.  Though I can’t read a word in Hebrew, I was glad that numbers in Hebrew look the same as numbers in English. (As opposed to Arabic numbers, which are written differently from those we are used to.) I was also grateful that the Lonely Planet’s Middle East book included an Israel section in which all of the names of the cities were written in English, Arabic and Hebrew. So the best I could do was make sure that the “squiggles” written next to the bus number matched the “squiggles” next to the word “Haifa” in my travel book.
I waited for about 30 minutes (in pouring rain, may I add) until the actual bus showed up. But again, I completely confused as to whether I should speak English or Arabic to the bus driver to confirm that this was in fact the bus I wanted. I poked my head in the opened bus door asked in Arabic if this was the bus to Haifa.  The driver answered me in English that is was. I hopped on and handed him a 50 shekel bill because I wasn’t too sure how much this ride would cost, nor did I understand how to make change in shekels anyway.   Once we got to Haifa, I told him where I needed to go, so when we arrived at the stop closest to my destination, he called me to the front and let me off.
Something that I began to realize in this moment and which reoccurred for the rest of the trip was that I couldn’t tell who was Arab and who was Jewish.  For some reason, I suppose because the “conflict” is so polarized by the media and in conversations, I thought I would be able to tell just by looking at a person their ethnic background in a country so defined by its ethnic discrimination.  But to me, most people looked the same. Every now and again, I would see a blonde woman with light skin, but everyone was mostly dark skinned with dark hair. I then thought I could make distinctions on social status or job, but I was even thrown off in Haifa when the waiters at a restaurant seemed to be equally Jewish and Arab.  But I’m sure, just like here in Jordan where all people on the street look the same to me, but Jordanians can tell their ethnic background, the citizens of Israel know how to “tell each other apart.”
After just about 7.5 hours, I reached the hostel in Haifa where I’d be staying for the next two nights while my parents were in town.  I was shown to my dorm room, and immediately collapsed into a deep sleep for a few hours after the 80 mile, four taxi, two bus overland voyage from Amman, Jordan to Haifa, Israel. 
When I woke up, I consulted my guide book to find a restaurant for dinner. I walked to an excellent place which was owned by Arabs but which served a variety of Arab, Mediterranean and international cuisines. It was here where I sat with a book for three hours and indulged myself on three different types of dark beers. I had been deprived of good beer for too long (Amstel and Heineken are the only commonly found options in Jordan), so I ignored any ugly glances which may have been thrown my way for being the girl drinking alone in the corner, and enjoyed my evening all the same.   
The next day I met up with my parents! Though we had some initial difficulty figuring out how and where we’d meet as neither of us would have working cell phones, we finally met at my hostel at about 8:30 AM.  It was so surreal to see them in a foreign place after not seeing them for three months, and in Israel of all places.  I felt like I was in a movie, as I was waiting outside my hostel, spotted them walking on a parallel to the street that I was on, and ran to them yelling, “Mom, Dad, Mom, Dad!”  We were all so happy to see each other, but funny enough, once I was able to wrap my arms around them in a group bear-hug, I instantly became sad at the idea that I would have to leave them at the end of the day.
Either way, we were glad to see each other and made our way back to our hostel to catch up and get of the rain.  After catching up at the hostel, we headed to the crusader city of Akko, about a 40 minute sheirut ride from Haifa.   We spent a few hours there, weaving through the streets and centuries-old buildings and stopping for lunch at a quaint café on the southern end of the peninsula-city (which we stumbled upon by chance when it started raining diagonally on us and after we had been wandering about 20 minutes looking for another restaurant, our stomachs grumbling). After lunch and after winding through the market, we took the sheirut back to Haifa.  Though it was cloudy, cold and raining most of the day, it was wonderful to spend that time as a family.
In Haifa, the weather had finally cleared up and we used the last few hours of like to check out the Bahai Gardens.  Though they were closed because of bad weather, we walked to the bottom level where we could at least take a look at the perfectly trimmed shrubs and beautifully manicured lawn.  As it began to get dark, we found a nice bar/ restaurant on that same Ben Gurion St. where we ordered fattoush ( a Middle Eastern salad characterized by the crunchy fried pita topping) and tried both Israeli and Palestinian beer. (Goldstar and Taybeh)
It was such a treat of course to spend time with my parents, but also nice to spend time in an outdoor setting drinking good beer.  Though I really have nothing to complain about in terms of life in Jordan, there are few, if any outdoor cafes where good beer is available.
            My parents had to get back to their ship so they could be sure to arrive in time for departure, so they walked me back to my hostel to bid me farewell.  For some reason, it seemed that this goodbye was even more difficult than saying goodbye in Chicago in August. Perhaps it was because I knew it would be even longer than three months until I saw them again, and perhaps it was because we had such little time to spend together that day.  Either way, tears were shed all around.

            After saying goodbye and wiping my cheeks, it was time to sit down and figure out how exactly I would be getting back to Amman the next day.  Unfortunately the bus company that I used from Amman to Nazareth did not provide a service the other direction.  Another problem that presented itself was that I do not read or speak any Hebrew: somewhat of a limitation when it comes to researching bus services in Israel. Additionally, there was little if any information online about the route I was looking for.  I googled “Nazareth to Amman” and found some blogs which mentioned a service that ran once a day from Nazareth to Amman, leaving at 8:30 AM.  Using this as a lead, I found the company name, number and approximate location in Nazareth.  I called the company for more information, but only to find that they were not open.  It freaked me out slightly that I had no guarantee of getting home the next day, but I just had to keep reminding myself that if worst came to worst, I would just find another hostel and post up for another night until I could find a way back.
            After reading several independent travel blogs which mentioned the same information about this bus but still feeling unsure of where exactly the location was, I decided to call some hostels in Nazareth and pretend that I was looking into staying at their hotel, but was wondering about transportation from Nazareth to Amman.  They people working the front desks all concurred that I needed to take a bus at 8:30 AM, but I still couldn’t figure out where the office was. I decided to again rely on the kindness of strangers and hope that someone could tell me the next day.  With nothing to do in Haifa, I striked up a conversation with some middle aged German women who were sharing my hostel room, and then went to bed.

            Per instructions of the woman working at my hostel, I was up at 5:30 AM the next morning to catch a 6 AM bus to Nazareth.  (If I had taken the 7 AM bus, I would have risked missing htat one 8:30 AM bus, so I decided to be safe and go early.) Walking out into a pre-dawn Haifa not knowing exactly where I was going was slightly frightening, but I felt better when I saw some people waiting at the bus stop where I was to wait for the bus to Nazareth.  The bus was about 15 minutes late, so I’m glad in the end I took the earlier one.  About 45 minutes into the hour and 15 minute or so ride, I approached the driver and asked him in Arabic if he knew where the office was for the bus company with service to Amman.  He first raised his eyebrows at me, I think because I was speaking Arabic, and then told me “ I’ll tell you.”  That was it.  I sat back down, putting my full faith in this middle aged Palestinian man.

            About 30 minutes later, as I was gazing out the window, trying to taking in all of my surroundings when the bus pulled to an abrupt stop and the driver yelled to me “ Here’s the office! Turn right on the first street there. It’s about 50 meters down the road on the left.”  Again, trusting this man, I gathered my belongings and hopped off the bus, not have a clue where I was, apart from in the city of Nazareth in the country of… I couldn’t even tell you for sure what country I was in.  But sure enough, the bus office I was looking for was right there.   I arrived at about 7:30, but it wasn’t open yet so I took a seat under the awning, and opened a book, most likely confusing passer-bys as to weather I was homeless or just a cheap student. The office opened finally at 8, and we loaded at 8:15.  By 8:30 I was happy to be on a means of transportation that I at least knew would take me at some point in the day, back to Amman.  (Though the ticket warned that anyone held for more than 30 minutes at the border would be left behind. I hoped that the Israelis would grant me mercy on the way back.)

            Though it was rather frustrating to travel over border crossings on a tour bus with about 50 others, it went rather seamlessly, that is by Middle Eastern standards.  I waited in several lines, talked to several officials in several languages (and with a Mexican holy land tour group in Spanish), ran my backpack through several scanners, paid several fees and taxes and finally found myself back on the bus to Amman.   This is the type of scenario where everything your parents and teachers tell you about being a “leader not a follower” needs to be thrown out the window.  This is where the art of traveling comes into play.  And many times being a traveller means being a follower.  In scenarios like this, you want to fit in as much as the next person.  So I made sure to watch other people as the bus driver made announcements. I couldn’t particularly understand what he was saying, so I relied on people’s collateral conversations to understand what to do. I followed people who looked like they knew what they were doing and hid my passport and spoke as little as possible to avoid being recognized as a foreigner.  Because as we all know, Americans are filthy rich, so once English is heard, money is expected to flow. In any situation when we left the bus and were expected to come out on the other side of security or customs or whatever, I always took note of the bus’ license plate number and chose one group of passengers’ faces and features to memorize. That way on the other side I could use either of the two to identify my group or bus in the sea of tour busses and tourists.
            Again I had no problems getting back into Jordan, except for one duty free salesman who insisted we meet up once I arrived in Amman. On the bus back to Amman, we did take an unannounced stop in Irbid, a city in the north of Jordan, which did add abut 2 hours to our trip, but there was nothing I could do but enjoy it. And enjoy it I did. Though it was raining and cloudy, it was the first time that I saw the beautiful green rolling hills of Northern Jordan and realized that Jordan is much more than just desert and dust.


Of course there is more that I learned from this trip but khalas for now. This is enough to read for one day.